Ymani Was Here: Choose You This Time.
Because you deserve the love you give to literally everybody else but you.
Choose You This Time.
When was the last time you truly made a decision with only you at the forefront of your mind? If you’re in any kind of relationship with the people in your life, it can be so hard to find the power within to be selfish! Especially when someone else is seemingly depending on you to make space for their wants and needs. Love calls for us to be selfless (within reason and boundaries), but not to the point where there is nothing left. At some point you are going to have to make the decision to choose yourself, for real this time.
I read somewhere that if you continue to promise yourself things you never follow through on, you begin to not trust yourself. Over time, the practice of not following through can begin a cascade of self-doubt, negative self talk, and anxiety. Next thing you know you’re feeling empty and trying to conjure up some confidence to begin again. It’s a cycle that we rarely realize is running the show in our lives until we enter the sunken place. For me, my wake-up call was and currently is the level of exhaustion I feel everyday. I’m ready to change my life and reclaim my story.
Over the last 6 weeks, I have completely changed my eating habits. I intentionally move my body at least 30 minutes a day, and I have been hitting the gym! It has not been easy and I have barely seen any true results but what I’m learning is the reward is IN the journey. I am getting to know myself again, setting boundaries, and prioritizing pleasure in my life in a way that I never thought I could. People pleasing is sneaky like that, you grow up believing that loving people means doing for others even at the expense of yourself. We are done with that friend. It’s time to change our narrative and find the joy in self-love.
Journal Prompt
What’s holding you back from living your best life? Make a mini list of the ways you can rebuild your confidence and trust within yourself. Anytime you start to doubt yourself or find yourself people pleasing, pull out your list and remember your commitment to self-love in this season.
I would love to hear your responses in the comments:
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Sending you so much love for the week ahead. I would love to stay connected with you. Follow me on Instagram @ymaniwashere and let’s keep the healing flowing!
xoxo,
Ymani